1. What should
I ask when deciding which coach?
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| The most important thing to look for
in selecting a coach is someone with whom you feel you can create
a supportive and powerful partnership. |
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| When you meet with a prospective
coach, I suggest you ask questions such as : |
- What is your coaching experience? (number
of clients, years of experience, types of situations)
- What is your
coach specific training? What credentials do you have? What
specific relationship coaching training do you have?
- How often do you
receive supervision?
- What are your beliefs and values around coaching
and relationships?
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2. Do you have
a Standards of Conduct and Ethics?
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| I am a member of the International
Coach Federation and abide by their Code of Ethics |
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3. What is the
coaching process?
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Coaching can be done over the phone or in person – it
is your choice.
I offer a free 45 minute no obligation consultation
meeting for you (or you and your partner) and I to get to know each other and find out
if we can work together.
If we agree we want to go ahead, the next meeting
is a 90 minute intake session to design how we work together
and get clear on the objectives for the coaching.
We then meet as regularly as will work for you. |
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4. What is Emotional Intelligence?
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| In the words of EI expert Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence
is: |
| “ The capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those
of others, for motivating ourselves, for managing emotions well
in ourselves and in our relationships." |
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5. What’s the difference
between relationship counselling and relationship coaching?
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The following gives an indication of some of the differences.
It is a very general list and some models of coaching, counselling
and therapy may vary.
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| Coaching |
Counselling or Therapy |
| Co-active
coach and clients are equals |
Therapist is expert / there is
hierarchy |
| Focus on evolving and manifesting
potential |
Focus on healing and understanding |
| Solution focussed |
Problem focussed |
| Explore thoughts, feelings and behaviours to create more positive outcomes |
Explore genesis of thoughts, feelings and behaviours that create unwanted outcomes |
| What’s next? |
Why? |
| Present and future |
Past and present |
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| Counselling or therapy might be better for you if |
- one of you has an
active mental illness or a substance abuse problem
- there is a power
imbalance between you that compromises one or both of you to
be fully present and expressed
- you cannot align
on desired outcomes or goals
- there is
emotional or physical abuse, or a threat of it
- there is no change through coaching after three
sessions
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If the relationship is very unstable
and you are too emotionally upset to work together, my advice
would be that you try working with me individually. If after three sessions there is no change I would suggest that I refer you to one of my colleagues
who are qualified counsellors
or therapists.
Please do contact me to talk through your specific
situation, if you are unsure what kind of support might be best
for you. If you are both committed to and are ready for change,
it is likely that coaching could work for you. |
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6. How much does it cost?
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| It depends on many things such as: |
- Where the coaching takes place
- How often we talk
- How many sessions you
commit to
- How often and by what method you would like to pay
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For anyone with financial problems,
I have two client slots available at a very low price.
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in all areas of my life. It’s a great
feeling!