If you’d like more happiness in your life, all you need to do is change some of the choices you make. Yes, it’s that simple.
Life offers us many challenges – a traffic jam when we’re in a hurry; rain on a wedding day or perhaps worse; illness or loss. It can feel like these things are happening “to us” – as if we have no choice and are the victim of some kind of outside force.
Sometimes the challenge comes from another person. How often have you felt upset by another’s actions or words? In these situations too, it can feel that we are being “done to” and are consequently powerless.
How would your life be different if you had a choice in all these situations? What if you weren’t a powerless victim but powerful beyond measure – always able to make changes and never without choices – regardless of the situation?
The good news is that you already are. We all are.
For instance, we could see a traffic jam as an inconvenience – because we might be late, or we could see it as an opportunity – perhaps to listen to an interesting radio show.
Either way, the traffic jam won’t change.
Our choice of perspective though, could mean the difference between arriving at our destination relaxed or stressed.
Even with more challenging life experiences, we have choices. We can choose to see the loss of a loved one as unfair or perhaps even devastating. Alternatively, we can choose to focus on how grateful we are that someone was in our life.
What we think doesn’t necessarily change the situation but it can make all the difference to how we feel about it and thus, to what we do about it.
Happiness comes from the choices we make
It’s all about the perspective we choose. Happiness can be a choice.
Those thoughts we have of judgement, resentment, bitterness or anger are what stop us from being happy – not other people or situations. If we fostered thoughts of acceptance, forgiveness, respect and love we are far more likely to experience happiness.
How could your year be different if you changed the way you think? How happy would you like to be this year?
If you want to be happier, coaching can help you make the choices that will help you towards just that. Contact Juliette to organise a trial, no-obligation coaching session right now.
There’s no better time to start making different choices!