Relationship Help for Relationships in Crisis
My relationship help for your relationship problems has a positive and practical focus.Our first goal will be to uncover what’s really going on, rather than focus solely on the relationship problems you might be aware of.
Often, after months (or even years) of challenges and repetitive limiting behaviours, it is likely that emotions, resentment, hurt and fear overshadow the real issues.
No two couples are the same, so once we are clear what the issues are, we will design our relationship together and agree between us what the objectives are for the coaching relationship.
Through my own and others’ experiences, I have seen many different types of relationship help and support, such as traditional marriage guidance counselling or some relationship therapies, focus on the presenting problems, rather than on supporting the relationship to develop.
The way I work, once the specific issues are identified, is to help individuals learn how to work together to avoid the preventable problems and deal with the unavoidable ones successfully, together.
We will start by focussing on improving your individual personal awareness and with that, begin equipping each of you with the skills that will enable you both to make more conscious, positive choices about how you relate to each other. This alone can transform your relationship into one that works for you.
Unlike much relationship counselling and marriage guidance however, I won’t just focus on you and your partner as two individuals. We will also consider what your relationship needs, as if it were a third person who needs to be considered too.
Once you have begun developing your personal awareness you will then learn how to broaden your awareness to include the needs of your partner and the relationship.
We will decide between us where to focus each session and the relationship help & guidance available to you could include:
- Moving on from resentment and hurt
- Developing a shared vision of the relationship you want
- Building trust and respect
- Setting and sustaining healthy boundaries
- Learning to communicate effectively
Ideally I will work with the two of you. However, if your partner is not yet ready to work on the relationship in a coaching environment, you and I can work together because you, as an individual, have the power to improve your relationship – both with yourself and your partner.